Women clever in covering up extramarital affairs

JAKARTA (JP): Women know how to cover up their extramarital affairs better than men, a noted sexologist revealed.

Boyke Dian Nugraha said he was surprised by the fact that women were aware of changes in their sexual organs after extramarital intercourse.

"Women are more mature and well-prepared in this matter. They even see their doctors to have their organs examined so their husbands can not find any trace of wrongdoing," Boyke, who is also a gynecologist, told a meeting held by a midwives association in Tangerang, West Java on Saturday.

Boyke said he rarely found men did the same in order to hide affairs.

He said most women, who saw him for consultation after having sex with other partners, were under 40 years of age. The opposite trend applies to men, Boyke said.

"An uncontrolled emotional void is the major reason for married people to have an affair. Those who suffer from this psychological problem tend to ignore moral and religious values," Boyke told Antara.

He said a couple could lose their emotional ties if they are not aware of their sexual ability, which gradually declines.

"In some cases, changes in sexual organs due to age induce married couples to seek other partners who they think can help them overcome their problem," Boyke said.

Citing an example, he said men over 40 would look for other women because of erection problems when having sex with their wives.

To make things worse, many couples lose self-confidence once they take on sexual problems, and overlook the good side of their partners, he said.

Boyke also found that some women who sought other men conceded they felt alienated by their husbands.

"About 20 percent of married women who have affairs suffer from a loneliness syndrome. They say their husbands no longer pay attention to them," he said.

He said men could avoid loneliness because "they are more outspoken in expressing their thoughts". (amd)