Women clever in covering up extramarital affairs

Women clever in covering up extramarital affairs

JAKARTA (JP): Women know how to cover up their extramarital
affairs better than men, a noted sexologist revealed.

Boyke Dian Nugraha said he was surprised by the fact that
women were aware of changes in their sexual organs after
extramarital intercourse.

"Women are more mature and well-prepared in this matter. They
even see their doctors to have their organs examined so their
husbands can not find any trace of wrongdoing," Boyke, who is
also a gynecologist, told a meeting held by a midwives
association in Tangerang, West Java on Saturday.

Boyke said he rarely found men did the same in order to hide
affairs.

He said most women, who saw him for consultation after having
sex with other partners, were under 40 years of age. The opposite
trend applies to men, Boyke said.

"An uncontrolled emotional void is the major reason for
married people to have an affair. Those who suffer from this
psychological problem tend to ignore moral and religious values,"
Boyke told Antara.

He said a couple could lose their emotional ties if they are
not aware of their sexual ability, which gradually declines.

"In some cases, changes in sexual organs due to age induce
married couples to seek other partners who they think can help
them overcome their problem," Boyke said.

Citing an example, he said men over 40 would look for other
women because of erection problems when having sex with their
wives.

To make things worse, many couples lose self-confidence once
they take on sexual problems, and overlook the good side of their
partners, he said.

Boyke also found that some women who sought other men conceded
they felt alienated by their husbands.

"About 20 percent of married women who have affairs suffer
from a loneliness syndrome. They say their husbands no longer pay
attention to them," he said.

He said men could avoid loneliness because "they are more
outspoken in expressing their thoughts". (amd)