Ramadan Can Be a Moment to Nurture Household Harmony
In household life, harmony is created not only through love, but also through continuous effort to understand one another.
Daily busyness, work, and the responsibility of child-rearing often cause married couples to unconsciously focus more on their role as parents than on maintaining the quality of their relationship as partners.
An occasion such as Ramadan can serve as a reminder to strengthen that bond through self-reflection, patience, and increasing quality time through shared acts of worship.
Psychologist Ayoe Sutomo, M.Psi., explained that household harmony does not occur automatically, but rather requires conscious effort from both parties.
“Family harmony is greatly influenced by the quality of the relationship between partners. When husband and wife feel valued, heard, and supported by each other, the atmosphere at home will also feel warmer for the children,” she said at the “Our First Ramadan: Islamic Family Full of Love” event held by the Pregnant Friends Community in Jakarta.
She added that many couples often fall into routine and forget to nurture their relationship. This situation is often felt even more keenly after the arrival of children, when time and energy, particularly from the mother, are largely devoted to caring for the family.
Therefore, it is important for couples to maintain a balance between their role as parents and as husband and wife.
From a religious perspective, Islamic scholar Ustad Encep Sehabudin M.Pd conveyed that marriage in Islam is not merely a relationship between two individuals, but rather a form of worship with a greater purpose.
He emphasised that when marriage is founded on the intention to serve Allah, husband and wife are better able to face the various dynamics of household life.
“When one marries for Allah, couples do not focus solely on momentary happiness, but also on how to support one another to become better individuals. Marriage becomes a shared journey towards goodness,” he said to the participants.
He also reminded that when a man marries, his primary responsibility is to his wife and children.
“The highest form of charity is charity towards one’s wife and children, after that to one’s mother or other siblings. But if there is indeed surplus wealth, then the wife should also be gracious when the husband gives some of that wealth to his parents,” he said.
“Through this activity, Pregnant Friends & Parenting hopes that mothers can increasingly understand that building a harmonious family requires a balance between spiritual values and emotional health. With a strong foundation, the family becomes not only a comfortable place to return to, but also a space for every family member to grow,” it was stated.