Do Not Become a Disobedient Child

Islam teaches that children have a duty to serve and obey their parents. This obedience is particularly emphasised towards one’s mother, as she has borne the burden of pregnancy and nursing with tremendous sacrifice.

“And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with weakness upon weakness, and his separation was in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.” (Qur’an 31:14)

However, filial duty must also be considered within context. If a father or mother seeks to lead a child into sin and disobedience to Allah, then the child’s obligation to obey them is voided.

“And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents. But if they endeavour to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them.” (Qur’an 29:8)

During the time of Caliph Umar ibn al-Khattab, an incident occurred wherein a father brought his son before the Commander of the Faithful. In front of the Companion of the Prophet Muhammad, known as al-Faruq, the father lodged a complaint regarding his son’s conduct.

According to him, his son refused to show obedience and respect towards him. “I beseech you to counsel him, O Commander of the Faithful! This son has become exceedingly disobedient towards me!” the father exclaimed.