Who is to be kissed?

Who is to be kissed?

From Interaktif

It is characteristic of President Habibie to kiss visitors on both cheeks, both on formal and informal occasions. A handshake is followed by a kiss on both cheeks, regardless whether it is a man or a woman. People wonder if it is Indonesian, European, American or Middle Eastern culture. It creates a certain intimacy that seemingly leaves a deep impression on the persons involved.

Wait a minute! Not every visitor can become the recipient. One must be chosen and have access. Many people are not given the opportunity. Is the practice discriminatory? A selection is indeed necessary because there are many people. That is right, but even when the number of visitors is limited not all of them get the honor of receiving a kiss. The people sure not to be overlooked are Muladi, Akbar Tandjung, Amien Rais, Kwik Kian Gie, Ahmad Tirtosudiro, Gus Dur and his daughter, and many more, perhaps in the thousands.

Because Habibie is a public figure seen every day on television, his behavior will be easily imitated by many people because of the paternalistic culture of the Indonesians. I would suggest that the habit of kissing visitors be abolished. Let us return to our national identity, i.e. the usual method of shaking hands, using one or two hands. Let us not be confused by various practices. Just one method is right for us.

ADE ANAS SOLIHIN

Jakarta