The power of personality

JAKARTA (JP): Everybody wants success, but few know how to beat a path to it.

One of the keys to unlock the door of success is the power of one's personality.

You have to have the technical skills to do well in certain tasks, and these skills are the capital you need to start your journey.

Next, you need to have managerial skills -- the skills that enable you to use the various facilities to support the effort to achieve your target.

Do not forget also the importance of interpersonal skills that will come to the fore when you have to launch corporations, negotiate, lobby or network.

Many people are familiar with the skills mentioned above, but there are two skills that are often neglected, namely the skills to project the right image and to use the power of personality.

Influencing

The personality power has to do with the ability to influence others, and this begins as soon as the first impression is formed.

Project sincerity and attend to those around you -- this will help create the strength to be positive and to look pleasant.

Make people really notice, whetting their desire to know you better. Do not appear to be subservient even if you are indeed someone's subordinate structurally.

Minimize situations where you will have to be obedient to someone else.

You cannot be completely rid of situations where you are someone else's underling, but be ready with initiatives and suggestions to reduce the need to be submissive.

Display your ability to think independently and place yourself on par with everyone else.

Make people do things for you. Before you can possess this power, you first have to place your trust on people and show them you are confident they will carry out what you wish them to do.

See and be. By "seeing" your own power and strengths, you can be what you want to be.

In order to "be", you have to tell yourself: "I will gather my own strengths."

This positive message will consciously or otherwise influence your personal system and push you toward quality power of personality.

Visualize what kind of personality you wish to have and project. Identify the various qualities that you have in existence. Evaluate yourself as you are today and try to equip yourself with the qualities that are important but you have not got.

Remember, quit being whatever you are, quit seeing what you are, but see and be only what you are going to be!

By taking a long and hard look at your whole being, you will have the guidance to be someone with the ability to look at other people's worlds differently, and this will help you appear extraordinary and merit other people's attention.

Try to build mutually beneficial and pleasant cooperation with other people.

Place emphasis on mutual interests, never sacrifice your own interests, and try not to be authoritarian in your dealing with people.

Do not say too much, and try to be a good listener. Good relations are not built on excessive tolerance.

On the other hand, if you encounter people who disturb your peace of mind, ignore.

Do not allow their rudeness or impropriety annoy you. Do not allow them to drag you into unnecessary arguments. Try not to see or hear things you do not like, even if they are displayed before your eyes.

With your power of personality, you can care about and be cared by people around you.

Listen to other people and care about their well-being. Tune them in.

Your care for other people can be beneficial as it helps you and the other people build both rational and emotional ties, spanning to spheres even beyond your workplace.

This way you will be able to make people willing to do things for you and follow you.