Say it clearly, toddlers will learn

Dear Dr.Donya,

I was a bit surprised to get your response although I really looked forward to it. But I really thank you for your response. You're most kind.

You're right when you say: "This age group also becomes frustrated because they are unable to speak and express themselves consequently they often get physical." I realized this after a full week of noticing my daughter's behavior. I tried every possible way to stop her doing what she's been doing to others (slapping, clawing and the like) and the last time I focused on your suggestions. I'm still trying and she has shown less harmful behavior toward others.

I was wondering, how many children do you have? Do you experiment with them (this is out of curiosity, please don't get offended)?

Thank you,

Mukti

Dear Mukti,

Thank you for your letter, I have two boys and a wonderful husband. Together my husband and I have always made a conscious effort to be calm, warm and accepting yet clear and direct in telling our children what we want, such as sitting on the furniture and keeping your feet on the floor, rather than walking on the furniture.

Consequently we have not had to deal with many issues for any noticeable length of time. This technique of communicating was not easy for us because our parents conditioned us to think "don't do this and don't do that", but after a lot of practice it became easier. I recommend this technique of communication to all parents.

Dr. Donya