Perception on bisexuality

On April 27, as usual, I watched 'Buah Bibir' (Fruit of the Lips) on RCTI. The topic was bisexuality in marriage. Two experts were invited to participate in the discussion, during which many strong and interesting opinions were aired. Personally I agree with the panel members who disagreed with bisexual activities in marriage and think that the problems must be properly handled in light of the fact that marriage is for only two people. This is the same for either a heterosexual or homosexual couple. Most of the suggestions are feasible.

Somehow, as a homosexual, I was disappointed by the remarks made by the guest speakers, especially the doctor, when commenting on homosexuality. In my humble understanding, their wording is stereotypical and way too misleading. "Sick" and "abnormal" are examples of their labeling.

It seems to me that the doctor perceives homosexuality as a disease which is associated with those who lead a glamorous life.

Furthermore, mummy's boys tend to become homosexuals when they grow up. For this I extend my sympathy to my fellow gay friends from "glamorous and mummy's boys" backgrounds. As for the remedy, the speakers prescribed that these sick and abnormal people go to religious experts. I don't believe that this solves the problem and if homosexuality is indeed a problem in the community.

I just don't understand whether religion has anything to do with changing one's sexuality or rather that religion helps people to be fully aware of their sexuality, its consequences and their responsibly in order to live in full contact with their community. Isn't the idea of believing in a certain religion to free its believers?

The misleading statements and labeling would not have become my concern had they been made by common people. These statements were made by experts and the show was broadcast on RCTI which has a strong penetrating impact on its audiences. Gay people have suffered from discrimination throughout history. Let's educate our community with the right information and let's tolerate others.

I do appreciate RCTI's effort in making such an interesting program. But I would be more grateful if they could select speakers who do not bias the information. I hope the speakers in the future will not stereotype communities they do not belong to. Comments on my letter will be very welcome, either through this paper or my email address, Signum_Fidei@yahoo.com.

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