School children and discipline<\/p>\n
I'm responding to the letter Disciplining school children by
\nBelle Sanjaya from Bandung published in The Jakarta Post on Oct.
\n26.<\/p>\n
I'm a 19-year-old student and, no, I don't have children yet.
\nBut reading your mean opinion on Etie S Dirapradja's plea for
\nhelp, I just can't stay silent.<\/p>\n
You are so cruel writing that Etie is \"the worst mother of all
\ntime\". Yes she may have committed many mistakes that in the end
\nled to her daughter's absence. And yes maybe she has just
\nhumiliated herself by sending that letter, but she simply was
\nasking \"to share her thoughts\".<\/p>\n
Did it pass your mind that maybe she had reasons that aren't
\nour business that made her send the letter in the first place?
\nIt's obvious she was scared, and asking for help! You simply just
\nmade it worse!<\/p>\n
And for Etie, I feel I have no right to give you advice since
\nI don't have a child yet. But if I may, what you need to do I
\nthink is talk to your daughter. From reading your letter it seems
\nthat you are also afraid to talk to her because maybe she will
\npush you away. You should keep trying to talk to her. With
\npatience and consistency. I think you could crack the hard
\nexterior of your daughter and find out what the problem is. And
\nyes, in the end, the parents are responsible.<\/p>\n
And for other parents out there who have had similar problems
\nsuch as Etie's, you should be more understanding to your
\nchildren. If they make mistakes, don't get angry and shout at
\nthem; simply discuss the problem, let your children talk. Hear
\nthem out even if they are emotional and end up shouting and
\ncursing -- be patient and let them let their steam out.<\/p>\n
After that, as parents, you should resolve the situation. I am
\nstill a teenager and I have strict parents. So, I know what I'm
\ntalking about. Parent-children problems occur sometimes just
\nsimply because either side won't listen -- and children should
\nlisten to their parents when they are talking as well.<\/p>\n
As for the school rule that locks students out after 7 a.m., I
\nthink it is a excellent way to discipline students. However, if
\nstudents have a good reason for being late and can prove it, I
\nthink they should be let in.<\/p>\n
And as for you, Belle Sanjaya from Bandung, you seem like a
\nvery strict, dictator-like parent. I hope you don't keep your
\nchildren in cages!<\/p>\n
SETYO HARGIANTO
\nJakarta<\/p>",
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