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        "id": 1213736,
        "msgid": "my-sympathy-for-mixed-couple-1447893297",
        "date": "1995-08-07 00:00:00",
        "title": "My sympathy for mixed couple",
        "author": null,
        "source": "JP",
        "tags": null,
        "topic": null,
        "summary": "My sympathy for mixed couple I sympathize with Mr. Gulliver on the problem of racism he is experiencing as being a foreigner married to an Indonesian. However, my sympathy goes more to his wife and many other Indonesian women who happen to be in the same situation. Perhaps being married to a foreigner is one of the cross cultural burdens that one should be prepared for, like racism and sexual discrimination.",
        "content": "<p>My sympathy for mixed couple<\/p>\n<p>I sympathize with Mr. Gulliver on the problem of racism he is<br>\nexperiencing as being a foreigner married to an Indonesian.<br>\nHowever, my sympathy goes more to his wife and many other<br>\nIndonesian women who happen to be in the same situation. Perhaps<br>\nbeing married to a foreigner is one of the cross cultural burdens<br>\nthat one should be prepared for, like racism and sexual<br>\ndiscrimination. Especially when you are, for example, in a public<br>\nplace or a place where people go for entertainment. The situation<br>\nhere of what seems racism, sexual harassment or even sexual<br>\ndiscrimination actually affects a woman more a man.<\/p>\n<p>There is an Indonesian woman I know who experiences being<br>\nstared at or propositioned by some Indonesian guys as if she were<br>\na whore. She thought it could be the way she acted, her attitude<br>\nor perhaps the way she dressed which suggested that she was one.<br>\nBut that was not the case.<\/p>\n<p>One of the problems is that by having had a foreign boyfriend<br>\nshe finds it difficult to start a relationship with an Indonesia<br>\nman. Any guys she dated would stop calling and never see her<br>\nagain after they found that she used to have a foreign boyfriend.<br>\nThe fact that she comes from a good family, dresses decently and<br>\nhas a good job as a lawyer and teacher does not help change what<br>\nthe Indonesian guys she dated had in mind about her. This may<br>\nsound exaggerated, but that is the dilemma that she has to deal<br>\nwith.<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps the problem lies in what people may call \"double<br>\nstandards,\" that obviously still exists in Indonesia. Or maybe it<br>\nis just indeed an unfortunate situation for Indonesian woman that<br>\nthere are still some Indonesian men (and women occasionally) who<br>\ncannot differentiate a whore from the ones that are not when it<br>\ncomes to a woman in the company of a foreigner. I wish I could do<br>\nmore to solve the Indonesian women's dilemma than just expressing<br>\nmy sympathy.<\/p>\n<p>ULI ARITONANG<\/p>\n<p>Jakarta<\/p>",
        "url": "https:\/\/jawawa.id\/newsitem\/my-sympathy-for-mixed-couple-1447893297",
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