'Indonesian men are not straightforward'<\/p>\n
Sri Ramadani, Contributor, Jakarta<\/p>\n
Singer Titi DJ began her career in the 1980s when she dated
\nmusician Indra Lesmana while still a teenager. In 1984, the pair
\ncollaborated on her first album, Imajinasi (Imagination). In the
\n1990s her fame rocketed as she scored such hits as Bintang-
\nBintang (Stars), Ekspresi (Expression) and Salahkah Aku (Am I
\nWrong?).<\/p>\n
The 35-year-old mother of four -- twins Salma Chetizsa and
\nSalwaa Chetizsa, Daffa and Stephanie -- has also worked with
\nGuruh Soekarnoputra's dance group Swara Mahardika and played the
\nroles of Lolo and Mrs. Fabiola on the hit television series
\nLenong Rumpi in the early 1990s.<\/p>\n
Though she has had some much-publicized failures in her love
\nlife, her career has continued to flourish. Now married for a
\nsecond time, to Texas-born Andrew Hollis Dougharty (her first
\nmarriage to actor Bucek Depp ended in divorce), Titi is riding
\nhigh with her new hit song Sang Dewi.<\/p>\n
If you had the choice, what would you be doing now?<\/p>\n
I would like to be painting. I never finished the paintings I
\nstarted during my first and second pregnancies. My twins have
\ncomplained that I never finished their portraits. I love to paint
\nflowers, children or self-portraits.<\/p>\n
What makes you tick?<\/p>\n
The demands of life (laughs). I do love and enjoy working.
\nMany of my friends do not enjoy their work or they get stressed
\nout from their jobs. I think there are both good things and bad
\nthings about work, and they both have to be accepted.<\/p>\n
Which trait do you most like about yourself?<\/p>\n
I can control my emotions. If there is some criticism of me, I
\ncan accept it and just laugh and think that there is a person who
\ncares about me.<\/p>\n
And deplore?<\/p>\n
I can be sensitive and mushy. If something goes wrong in my
\nshow, I will be sad.<\/p>\n
Whom do you admire?<\/p>\n
Mother Theresa for all her sacrifices. I admire meritorious
\npeople. The late Pranajaya, Guruh Soekarnoputra, Elfa Secioria. I
\nalso admire my husband and Dewi "Dee" Lestari, who is so talented
\nat such a young age.<\/p>\n
If you were still the same age as Dewi, what would you be
\ndoing?<\/p>\n
I would be dating.<\/p>\n
What kind of clothes do you like to wear?<\/p>\n
It depends on whom I am going out with. When I was dating
\nIndra, I wore clothes that covered everything. I had to wear
\nlady-like clothes because I was dating the son of a prominent
\ncouple.<\/p>\n
Do you worry about your weight?<\/p>\n
Yes, I do. Audiences demand to be entertained not only by my
\nvoice but also by my looks. When I was fat, I didn't have as many
\nshows.<\/p>\n
What was the last book you read?<\/p>\n
Demagus of Java by Kosta Danaos. It's about a logical man who
\ndoesn't believe in magic.<\/p>\n
What makes you angry?<\/p>\n
My or someone else's mistakes. I can get so angry at little
\nthings that should not have happened.<\/p>\n
When was the last time you were angry?<\/p>\n
Sometime last week. I am embarrassed to tell you about it.
\nBut I am now happy with my success. A smile is not expensive.<\/p>\n
What characteristics do you dislike in others?<\/p>\n
Arrogance, though I can understand if really talented people
\nare snobbish.<\/p>\n
What makes you laugh?<\/p>\n
My children. My son Daffa really understands me. If I look sad
\nor tired, he will come over and cheer me up.<\/p>\n
What makes you sad?<\/p>\n
I became really sad one time in Lawry's restaurant in Plaza
\nSenayan. I had ordered roasted chicken but after five minutes
\nthey told me there wasn't any chicken. I would have been angry
\nbut I couldn't. I just thought about how hungry I was. Then I
\nthought what if my children were starving? I started crying and
\nmy husband was confused, he didn't know what had happened to me.<\/p>\n
What is your favorite smell?<\/p>\n
I like spices because they have a unique fragrance. Fruits can
\nsmell fresh. I am not fond of any one perfume. I don't want
\npeople to know I have arrived from the fragrance of my perfume.<\/p>\n
What makes life worth living?<\/p>\n
Feeling secure, loving and being loved, being healthy, as I
\nhave been sick, and the belief that God will help us solve our
\nproblems, whatever they are.<\/p>\n
Do you have a favorite song?<\/p>\n
I like Star by Simply Red. I get an eerie feeling whenever I
\nhear that song.<\/p>\n
And movie?<\/p>\n
I like to watch movies but I always forget the titles. I like
\nMoulin Rounge and the Devil's Advocate.<\/p>\n
What characteristics do you love in foreign men?<\/p>\n
I don't know many foreign men so I can't compare one with
\nanother. Usually, they are frank with their opinions.<\/p>\n
And Indonesian men?<\/p>\n
They lack straightforwardness. Sometimes that can be a problem
\nfor me.<\/p>\n
What is the cost of popularity?<\/p>\n
It doesn't mean very much because my job is pretty much the
\nsame as other jobs. If we do good work, money and popularity will
\nfollow. My goal is not popularity but to be good and to live.<\/p>\n
Do you have any regrets in your life?<\/p>\n
When I was teenager and dating Indra, I was too proud of him,
\nas though nobody else was as good as him. It was like I was
\nwearing blinders, so I couldn't see anything else. I wish I could
\nhave taken off the blinders.<\/p>\n
How would you like to be remembered?<\/p>\n
I would like to be remembered as Titi who is funny, forgiving
\nand attentive.<\/p>\n
If the world were going to end in 24 hours, what would you do?<\/p>\n
Be with my children, husband, mother, older and younger
\nbrothers. I wouldn't want to be alone.<\/p>\n
What three things would you take with you if you were stranded
\non a desert island?<\/p>\n
Mosquito repellent and netting, a pan to boil water, matches
\nand a gun to hunt food in order to survive (laughs).<\/p>",
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