'I'd never send my parents away'<\/p>\n
The definition of family living in large cities is changing, from
\nthe traditional extended family to a nuclear family. Grown-up
\nchildren will settle down on their own, leaving their retired
\nparents alone without younger people to help them around. The
\nJakarta Post asked residents whether they would prefer to admit
\ntheir parents to riterment homes instead of taking care of them
\nby themselves.<\/p>\n
Lenny Tambun, 24, is a reporter with the Merdeka daily whose
\noffice is in Kebon Sirih, Central Jakarta. She lives with her
\nfamily in Lenteng Agung, South Jakarta:<\/p>\n
I would not like to see my parents being put in a home for the
\nelderly. Never. I would prefer to take care of them in my own
\nhome so that I could monitor their health day by day. I couldn't
\ntrust the service provided by a nursing home.<\/p>\n
I have visited several nursing homes in the city along with
\nmembers of my church, and what I've seen is that most of the
\nhomes provide poor treatment for the elderly. Dirty and messy
\nbedrooms, poor meals, and poor attention are the norm. Only a few
\nnursing homes provide good services.<\/p>\n
Vitri, 26, a marketing manager with a firm in Central Jakarta.
\nAn only child, she lives with her parents in Pasar Minggu, South
\nJakarta:
\na I actually could not imagine coping with my father all day
\nlong after his retirement. My father, he is now 55, would likely
\nget a problem like post-power syndrome as he's a bossy employer
\nat work.<\/p>\n
But my mother, now 53, will be OK. She's a housewife, so she
\nis accustomed to being at home all day.<\/p>\n
Even in the future, if they were still physically strong and I
\nwas not around all the time, I would still not put my parents in
\na home for the elderly. I would hire a nurse to take care of them
\nat home.<\/p>\n
I now live in their home. If I was married I would move out.
\nBut I would visit them regularly.<\/p>\n
--The Jakarta Post<\/p>", "url": "https:\/\/jawawa.id\/newsitem\/id-never-send-my-parents-away-1447893297", "image": "" }, "sponsor": "Okusi Associates", "sponsor_url": "https:\/\/okusiassociates.com" }